Sunday, September 28, 2008

Spontaneity (with a little pre-planning)

Back when Wayne and I were newly married, we were spontaneous.


For example, one time, on a whim on a Friday night, we left Virginia to drive to Maine for dinner. From the time we decided to make the trip (it was sort of a challenge between us, we both thought the other would come to their senses first) we had left in one hour, bags packed and ready for a road trip. We drove to Maine, ate a seafood dinner at the first seaside restaraunt we came to, turned the car around and returned home...all within 48 hours. And Wayne went to work the next day. Of course, gas prices were a bit cheaper then!



Another time we drove from Kansas to Texas for Easter weekend at the last minute because our original plans were cancelled. That time our car broke down, majorly, and we had to rent a Hertz moving van to get back home (we didn't have that much stuff, it was just cheapest one-way solution).



Then came kids.



Don't get me wrong, kids are great (usually), but they do throw a little wrench into "sponteneity." Now, if we want to go somewhere we have to pack toothbrushes times 5, diapers, toys and books for the car, snacks, etc., etc., etc. So our spontaneity has been sorely lacking these last 9 plus years.

This weekend we renewed our quest to be spontaneous! We decided on Friday night that we would take a daytrip to Washington D.C. to see the Museum of Natural History. We packed a diaper bag and several snacks and drinks. Unfortunatly we did not pack a map, figuring we had been to D.C. often enough that we did not need one. We didn't tell the kids we were going, but just woke them up Saturday and told them to get ready to go to "school" (since we homeschool we can define this quite broadly) They didn't guess what we were doing until we were all the way to D.C.

The reason we picked this particular trip was that we had watched "Night at the Museum" last weekend (a movie were the museum characters come to life after dark) and the kids were begging all week to go to a natural history museum...so we decided to strike while the iron was hot.

The trip was great, with the exception of some frustration finding a parking spot and getting lost several times in the process. Well, not exactly lost, just not quite where we wanted to be at that particular point in time.

We only got caught outside in one rainstorm...but you know who we are...







THE RAIN DANCERS!







Even Wayne joined in!






I chose to just watch from the bench under the trees and take pictures (I prefer staying dry when I can!)

The mall in D.C. was particularly busy with some sort of "festival of the book" with many tents set up, speakers, high security, etc. We just walked on past the festival on our way to the museum and only found out much later that we passed up many famous adult and children's author's who were in town for book signings and speeches. In fact, my most favorite author ever, Alexander McCall Smith, was there probably at the exact moment we were crossing the mall. Oh well...I guess stuff like that has to be planned.



The bonus for the day for us was meeting a family up near D.C. of a little baby boy who has recently been going through treatment for hepatoblastoma (the same cancer that Jedrek had). He happened to be in the hospital that was right on our way home, so we stopped in and got to meet them in person. They were super-nice and it was so nice to be able to offer hope and information to another family who is in a similar situation as us.

Friday, September 26, 2008

Here I go!

Welcome to my blog! I have been thinking and planning to do this for some time now, but it has taken me a while to actually get started. I want to write a little bit of background for anyone who doesn't know me (or doesn't know me well).


I will start with explaining why I called this blog "rain-dancers." A couple of years ago I heard the quote that is at the top of this blog about learning to dance in the rain. It really resonated with me at the time because we had just taken on 2 small foster children, I was pregnant with our third child, and my husband had just found out his brain tumor, which had been "quiet" for 5 years, decided to "act up" again and he was back on chemotherapy. Sometimes I wondered if we were crazy (ok, so I wonder that a lot) to take on so much in our lives. But if we had spent the last years of our marriage and life just "waiting for the storm to pass," we would not have enjoyed and experienced all that life had to offer "in the rain." (Ok, I'll stop with the analogies now).


Several years ago I took a "Stress Test" in which I marked any major life event that happened in the recent past (good and bad) and applied a score to it. In school I liked to score high on tests, and this one was no exception. Let me just highlight a few events from the past two decades:


1992--Got married
1993--I Graduated from college, moved to another state
1994-1995 (Pretty quiet)
1996--My husband graduated from college, we moved to another state again
1997--My husband's father died from prostate cancer
1998--My mother died after a long battle with Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma and the aftereffects of treatment
1999--Our first child was born
2000--My husband was diagnosed with a brain tumor
2001-2002 (Pretty quiet)
2003--Our second child was born, moved to a new house that we had built
2004-2005 (Pretty quiet)
2006--After 5 years of being asleep, my husband's tumor "woke up" and he began treatment again, also we took in 2 foster children for six months
2007--Our third child was born and at age 3 months, was diagnosed with hepatoblastoma (a rare form of childhood liver cancer).

2008--what's next???


When we found out our baby had cancer, we started a caringbridge site. We found this website was a great way to communicate with many people at the same time about the significant events in his treatment. However, I often found myself wanting to say more about us, not just as it relates to our child and his medical condition. Then, two of my good friends started blogging. Well, as I read their blogs daily, I became jealous of how much fun they were having and decided that I should join the fun!


I am hoping that with the words and pictures on this blog I can be more connected with people far away (as well as those close to home!). I may only update this blog occasionally, or I may decide it is so much fun that I update several times a day--check in when you can! As I keep you more updated on our lives, please feel free to comment or email me (or call, or write, or visit) to let me know what is going on in your life!